Personality Traits

OK, so the snow storm has shut most things down in the DC area (I don't have to go back to work until next week)but life does go on! Waking up this morning I was greeted by this blog on yahoo. The blogger wrote about 6 Personality Traits to Admire and Acquire and it got me to thinking. In the day of high divorce rates and people who no longer value long term relationships, I believe knowing what you want and having the courage to become a better person will help relationships. If everyone thought about what exactly is exciting about their personalty and then have the courage to change what they do not like about themselves I believe the divorce rate would be much lower. Yes, there are a group of people who rather be in a toxic relationships than have the courage to be with someone who you actually might like. Just sayin'...

So I started thinking about my own personality, what do I like about me. I like that I am a genuine person. I keep it REAL baby! Don't ask me anything unless you want the REAL answer to the question. I thank GOD that I have a conscience heart and I believe my purpose on earth is to relate truth to his people. So that means at times I do not have a popular opinion, but I have the courage to speak up when we live in a time when people need to be liked so they shut up! What I want to improve about myself is to value myself for who I am and not what I do. I am VERY goal oriented and if you are anything like me you may understand that at times we value ourselves with our achievement rather than who we are as individuals. This is something that I am working on within myself.

I then began to ask what do I like to see in a others. I believe the personality trait that I admire but do not see enough of is compassion. I know everyone appears to be compassionate when we talk about giving to causes like for example giving to Haiti after the earthquake. But what about your own neighbor that you see everyday? If your brother or sister is suffering why not lend an ear and a open heart? And that is free! I read in the news that a mildly mentally disable teenage girl was raped in DAY LIGHT! Cars drove by and NO ONE helped her! JESUS!!! NO ONE! There was one person who was nice enough to call 911, but did not get out the car to help!

So think about it, what really makes you excited when you think about someone? I am not talking about being impressed, but inspired! When we think about personality traits in others, what do we look at when it comes to personal relationships? Here is my list that would inspire me to want to be with someone for the long haul.


1. Compassion- I touched on it before but I wanted to highlight this again. This quality is a virtue. This quality can be seen as a feminine trait and most men do not embrace this quality in the lives. This is what makes having compassion such a rare quality for men and why it would make a man speacial to me if he possessed this quality.

2. Humility- I have to admit I love men who are confident. I mean the type of confidence where you would hate him after a conversation lol. But what makes this person so attractive to me is being able to balance out confidence with humility. Yes, you can be confident and humble too! This is so rare because it takes maturity to get to this level. There is something irresistible about a man who knows he is hot but seems to not be aware of it.

3. Knowing who you are- This is different from confidence. Being confidant is more from the ego and satisfies the self. But knowing who you are satisfies the Self or the soul. Let me explain. I have been studying love and spirituality for several months now. I have just finish reading The Path to Love by Deepak Chopra. In the book the Aurthur breaks down ego vs. Self. The self vs. Self. The self which is ego loves to be praised and people to like him/her. That's not rare, most people are this way. But Self is not ego it is the spirit within that loves himself/herself without any co-signs from anyone else. That is what satisfies the soul and makes you whole person. Embracing the good and bad about who you are and not caring what others think. Again this is rare and that is what makes this an attractive quality to have.

I long to be around someone who I would like to be around not just love. Just think about the people who are not happy in relationships. Could it be we do not even like the people we say we love? This happens more than we like to admit! So what is that rare personality trait you crave in a mate? Also what personality trait would you like to possess more of?

Natasha