Last Friday I went to an art show with some of my girlfriends. This is my social season. Last year all I wanted to do was stay at home. I just moved from my hometown of Oklahoma City. I was homesick and all I fantasied about was home cooked meals. I have now made peace with my decision to live in Northern Virginia. GOD has revealed to me all the great possibilities my area has to offer. So I took the train to DC and enjoyed an evening with friends. I started a conversation with the ladies sitting next to me about the lovely cake we were eating. After having some laughs I was invited to hang out at a restaurant in DC called Stan's. I thought why not?! So my new friends and I boarded the train and went to Stan's. At the table we talked about being from different areas, the menu and of course men. Two of the ladies asked me was I dating. I replied"No". Then I was asked "Well are you even looking"? I said "No". They both looked surprised at my answer. This is the response I get from most women. Especially if they are already in a relationship. They think everyone wants what they have, a boo. Or every women is looking to get what they have, a boo. I am not one of those women. I am in the small group of women who believe that LOVE will happen when you least expect it!
The art of attraction is simple. Man sees you having fun, he wants to join you having fun. Man likes women, women likes man. They live happy ever after right? Well, yes and no. Of course every man who has fun with you is not going to ask you out. Just like the men I hung out with at Stan's. They sat next to us and said all night you ladies are so cool. After it was over I gave hugs and kisses and went home. That easily could have been the opposite where I would have made a connection. The beauty of it is I had no expectation either way!
LOVE is something that you need not search for. It is not in the man or women you meet. Looking for LOVE is an idea I no longer believe in. Why? Because I now know this simple truth. Being that I am the image of GOD, I am LOVE. The reason is because GOD is LOVE. So if I am made in his image than I am LOVE too. So knowing this truth I seek for LOVE no more! How can someone find something that is not lost? How can someone find something that they already have? I take LOVE everywhere I go. So man or women will draw to me because of this truth. And I will also draw to them. Which brings me to my next point. When your soul makes a connection you don't have to do anything. You just have to be! As Common said years ago, just BE! In that space LOVE will come when you least expect it. Your soul will seek out your mate. You will feel the connection and it will be deeper than we both LOVE romantic comedies.
I hear people say all the time "LOVE happens when you least expect it". So why do so many people search for LOVE? When it is proven that the best relationships happen when either person is not desperately looking for it? I used to be guilty of this. Every hour on the hour wanting a man so bad, feeling that as long as he was "nice" I would go out on a date with him. I did not want to pass up my soul mate! I think the problem is we live in a world that promotes fast results. I support online dating. I did it for years. But I realized for me, the Internet was a safety net. Getting out in the world was what my soul craved. Real human connections. So again I ask what is your soul saying to you?
I know of a life coach that recommend write down a date for what you want. I wanted to move to the DC area so in 2006 I wrote down my target date. In July 2007 a month before my target date I was moving to Northern Virginia. The life coach recommended setting a date for a new job, move to a new location, or if you desire a mate. I thought, that is an excellent idea. Every time I sat down to make a date to find LOVE my soul would reject it. All I could think of is the different goals that I wanted to accomplish. Being in a relationship was not on the list. The odd thing is I am open to a relationship. But sitting down planning one is not natural for me.
Going through life I am finding out that every one's path to LOVE will not be the same. One thing I do know is to find LOVE is to look within. When you understand that LOVE is not separate from you the feeling of loneliness fades away. The desire to make plans to go out and meet a man fades away. A desire to share your LOVE for the world will rise in you. The desire to LOVE yourself more will be a goal. Acceptance will be a daily task. In that space everything our soul desires will reach out to us and draw it near!
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