I HATE Dating

Ok, I am not a dater. This is odd being that I enjoy interacting with people. Going on random dates with different men is not my thing. I have always known this about myself. I know there are people who have found peace with dating because they have learned to "play the game". But that is where my problem lies, in the games. Don't get me wrong I get that dating is a game. We have to play to win. Right now I feel like the score is, me 0 and the game 10. I am getting blown out! I am drained and all I want to do is focus less on dating and more on my career. I am just keeping it 100%.

The purpose of dating is getting to know the other person. This is the beauty of it because I LOVE meeting new people. But what happens when you find out that the person never was really single like he said? Or when the person is never available to talk to you and get to know you better? My thing is if a guy is in a relationship say so, duh! If the person does not want a serious relationship express that so everyone is on the same page. Why go through all the drama of asking for my number and going out of your way to get my attention if you were never interested in the first place? See I learned from a minister I had years ago about being upfront when meeting someone. He said never lie about being interested in a man or give him a fake number. If you like him, give him your number. If you are not into him kindly turn him down because that is best practice. I wish everyone felt this way.

Dating would not be such a tough thing for me if people did not play the games. Like, I don't want to call because I don't want to appear disparate. If I am interested in a guy I will call. I LOVE connections so having to play the two day until I call him game is annoying to me. I want us to be so comfortable with each other that there is no issue of who calls first, second, three hundred times whatever. Then having to wait for the call back, wondering if he likes me too is draining. I LOVE men who are forward and just says, I am interested in you. If I like a guy and he is not into me I am a big girl I can handle it. But I can't handle the games. When we talk you think I am great, but your actions don't support that truth.

So for me I just chill out with my fam and friends. Praying to meet a guy who feels like me. Being friends is a blessing, lets hang out and get to know each other better. No pressure of dating, just two people enjoying each others company. Until I am married I want to enjoy having friends and freedom of having great men in my life. Why does everything have to be either a romantic relationship or nothing at all? Don't the best relationships come from friendships anyway? What about you, are you a fan of dating?