My Type

After talking to my sister I realized that I don't really have a "type" of guy that I am into. For me it is about feeling, although I have not always seen it that away. Before I began studying Deepak Chopra's work I always felt I was crazy for not having a "type". How many times have you heard someone say my type of guy or women is________. Logically it makes sense because then the person would have an image in their heads of what they are looking for. The problem arises when that image does not exist. Would if this made up person only exist in our head?

That's the reason I stopped thinking that I am supposed to have a type. I am so different from the rest of the world, but like most people I fight so hard to fit in. I have learned two things. One, I do not fit in and two, I am not supposed to. The latter is a totally different blog in itself. Anyways, when I let go of this image in my head I was set free. The image in our heads is what keeps us comfortable, believing someone out their who is 6'11 with brown eyes, muscle chest, dark tone, LOVES Chinese food and volunteers for the children shelter on the weekend is at his house right now waiting for me. This is damaging to the soul. If we hold on to this illusion of said person, we will miss other opportunities that come into our lives.

Now when I meet men I realize that I am drawn to certain types more than others. Men who are older. Usually I meet men that are younger than I am and they are interested in me. I find myself not feeling the same. I instantly think, he will play games, or he has so much to learn about life. Wait, did he just say his favorite rapper is Waka Flocka Flame? I LOVE Waka Flocka, I am not a hip-hop snob. I have grown past that stage in my life. My point is if that is his idol he has to be like what, 24? That means when I was graduating from high school, he was graduating from 4th grade. Not a good look.

Being open I give these said younger guys a try. Things start out great and then boom, we are arguing over the roles a man and women ought to have in a relationship. He listens to 90% rap and 10% r&b, while I am 50% r&b and 40% rap and 10% everything else.

Now music maybe petty to some but that is a deal breaker for me. I always tell people the reason I am still a virgin is because I have not met a brother who knew what music to play to set the mood. Music is my life.

My soul craves a man who is seasoned. A man who knows who he is and comfortable in that space. Being comfortable is bigger than confidence, for example if I feel like my outfit does not look great I may not feel very confident in myself. Because I know who I am my spirit still shines through.

I have learned that while I am open to younger men, I prefer older men. I don't want a man who cares what his friends think of me being a big girl. I am ready to meet a man who has his own agenda and ready to make me apart of it. No games, and ready for a REAL friendship. Yes, there are plenty of older men who still have to grow in this area also. I know that. My point is that the risk is much greater when they are younger.

So do you find yourself liking a certain type of person? Are you open to anyone? Please comment and let me know.