"She had a thing for stray dogs and I am not talking about the one with four legs". So many women are guilty of falling in LOVE with the wrong man. What about our choices in men going as far that it cost us our life?
I watched an interesting story about a 21 year old young woman who always got involved with men who "needed her help". The young women's mother spoke for her because she is now dead. The young lady's mom warned her daughter of the type of men that she LOVED so much would get her into trouble. Mom described her daughter as LOVING and would help anyone. But mom said her down fall was LOVING the wrong men.
That haunting night that ended her life was said to have started with the young lady and the guy going to a party and some say maybe a dinner that led to going back to his place. That is where he would take her life. The reason is unknown and his lawyers are even saying that another women helped him with the killing. What we do know is he was a guy who saw himself as a gangster. He sold drugs and was addicted to cocaine. Now I know some woman would say that's why I don't date thugs. Well he was also a full time business major! This is why we have to get past images and get to the core of the men we deal with. The young lady met this guy at school. One would think her big heart and wanting to help him led to her death. I disagree. I think her need to be with someone who "needed" her is what led to her death.
This personality type is called The Rescuer. A rescuer is the type of romantic personality that only dates men who need to be saved. The men who is between jobs. Lives at home, but has no real plans of leaving. The co-dependent type of men who need other woman to help them function in life. Just like a nurse. The woman are the nurses and the men are the walking wounded. These types of women think they will change these men so they can live productive lives. But reality is these men are co-dependent on their women. That is their LOVE subsitute. Feeling needed makes the woman feel LOVED and desired. This false sense of security makes them stay in an unhealthy relationship.
Men who are a danger to who we are need to not be in our life! Of course high insight is 20/20 and the women who lost their life or part of it would change everything knowing what they know now. But what about before the drama and sad ending? Take the time to find out why you are attracted to men who will drain the life out of you. I know this first hand because I was there.
I have never been in a serious relationship. I just felt like my mission is to follow GOD and that should be my main focus. Until marriage enjoy my youth and have fun. So I had some healthy qualities. But I would attract wounded men. The fact that I am a chubby girl I felt I needed to be happy with whoever wanted me. What a sad space to be in. So I would be friends with guys who had no direction and needed my help. Him needing me gave me an ego boost. The men I was friends with thought I was smart and had it together. Too bad I did not think so. I believe GOD puts people in our life to teach us something about our self. I realized I did not have to settle. Being single and having peace of mind is better than having a "friend" with drama! Or worst losing everything I worked so hard for.
My prayer is that women(and men) learn a valuable lesson from this young woman who lost her life. The only person you can save is yourself! The sad part is she was trying to save someone and could not save herself in the end. The irony! I pray peace and healing to her family. May she rest in peace and her death not be in vain!